Posts Tagged ‘gay marriage’

  • Gay Rights-Wait it Out or Fight Now

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    Over the past few months or so, discussion over gay rights here in the United States has become more and more of a popular topic for discussion. Some people say that gay people need to be patient and wait for their rights as right now politically isn’t the right time to press the subject. Others demand these rights immediately leaving no room to compromise saying that rights are something that no one should have to wait for.

    On one side, Barrack Obama did say that he will take up the issue of gay rights, he is just asking for a little time to do that. Politically speaking, right now may not be the best time for him to push the envelope on the topic. It is certainly understandable that if the topic is going to be brought up, we should be confident that these rights will be granted in the end. Let’s face it, he’s a busy man. He has two wars, failing auto industry, an economy to rebuild etc. I am sure there is some selfishness sneaking in there as well. Obama wouldn’t want to hurt his chance at winning a second term or to damage the political power of the party.

    For gay rights activists, this is not an acceptable answer. They are demanding these rights immediately and seem to be willing to fight for them (maybe). They claim that no one ever just had rights handed to them and that they must be fought for. They cite the right to vote of women as well as equal rights for black people.

    Both sides certainly have valid points. I am sure it’s clear that I would like equal rights for gay people, but I see both sides of this argument and I am not sure where I stand. I think that the time is coming nearer and nearer towards having these rights but I am also not sold on it being fair that people have to wait to have them.

    What side do you stand on and why? I’m anxious to hear what you have to say. Let me know in the comments.

    Posted on December 29, 2009 to:

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  • Keeping Busy…Coming Out

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    I have been keeping busy over the past week or so. I have more or less been pretty good overall. I really miss Tony and where he is from. I really want to go back sometime soon and see it all again. He may be be graduating next December so that would be a good time to go out there and see him then.

    Work has been going pretty well. School work is piling up. I have to go into the office tomorrow to let a contractor in. I think I am going to get as much work done as possible.

    It’s a quiet night tonight. I have fallen in love with our new TV. We just got all of the HD hookups so I am rediscovering TV.

    Last week, I decided to tell one of my aunts that I am gay. I actually started telling her over Facebook chat and then we talked on the phone for a couple hours. I was particularly scared to tell her because she is politically conservative and has made some comments about gay marriage and the fact that she didn’t want her kids exposed to that.

    Our conversation could not have went better. She told me that she was fine with it and that she loved me. She said that it would in no way affect my relationship with her kids. I actually got to see her last weekend which doesn’t happen that often.

    This week as I was walking to work, I got a phone call from her. We exchanged pleasantries and then came the shocker. Since I talked to her about my trip to see Tony, she offered to have us both stay at her place since my uncle is going to be out of the country for a few months.  She said ,”You and your friend cold come here and visit the city and use (my uncle’s) car.” That was a total surprise. I don’t think that we will be taking her up on the offer, it was a very pleasant surprise.

    Hopefully, this will set the stage for more good stories to come. I am going to start telling more people. It is time. I am ready. If they aren’t, thats’s their problem. I will keep you all updated. Until next time…

    Posted on November 7, 2009 to:

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  • Good Cause of the Month

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    I have decided that I am going to start to plug some good causes on The Covert Homo about once a month. This actually was inspired this weekend when I did a little work with a non-profit and asked for some donations from friends. Fellow blogger Nathan was also doing some work for an Aids Walk. He simply reached out and asked and he got some donations. I decided to reach out for my cause and some people donated.

    So from now on, I would like to pick a cause every month which I will post a little about and solicit donations from you, my readers. I know that donations may be hard in times like these, but every little bit helps. I am very open to suggestions as to what future causes could be. Is there something you are passionate about, do you think fellow readers would be too? Leave some suggestions in the comments. Anything is open for consideration.

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    This months cause is The White Knot for Equality. This organization was founded in 2008 in response to California passing Proposition Eight and whose mission it is to work toward equal rights for the LGBT community. Please check out this organization and if you feel inspired, please make a donation. Anything that we can do to help get the rights our straight counterparts have is a worthy cause.

    Posted on September 28, 2009 to:

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  • Gays vs. Republican Hypocrites-War On

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    SCUMIt seems like politician after politician have been surfacing with these scandals. The latest, Senator Ensign from Nevada. Mr. Ensign admitted having an extramarital affair with a woman that works as a staff member. Reportedly, this woman saw her salary double while the affair was happening. Also, the husband of the woman the Senator was having an affair with worked for the senator.

    It gets better. The following is a statement that I found on the Senator’s website regarding an amendment to the Constitution that would ban gay marriage.

    “In order to defend the institution of marriage, uphold the rights of individual states, and maintain the will of the people, I believe we are compelled to amend our country’s constitution.

    The effort to pass a constitutional amendment reaffirming marriage as being between a man and a woman only is being undertaken strictly as a defense of marriage against the attempt to redefine it and, in the process, weaken it.

    Marriage is an extremely important institution in this country and protecting it is, in my mind, worth the extraordinary step of amending our constitution.”

    I don’t even know where to begin. Apparently gay marriage is a threat to marriage because gay people are going to weaken the meaning of it. Also, the Senator claims that marriage is an important institution in this country and protecting that institution is so important that he supports an amendment to the Constitution to prohibit gay people from marrying.

    Anger is beyond how I feel about this man. I am not at all a violent person. I have never hurt anyone, but I think I would feel very compelled if I were ever in his presence. How dare he? Really? He let himself, his constituents, his staff, and his country down.

    If I were his wife, I would immediately sue for a divorce and I would lawyer up. I would take everything I could. I would issue a public statement announcing the pending divorce and make a statement that his behavior is unacceptable on every level. I would call for his immediate resignation.

    If I were the Senator’s advisor, I would urge him to immediately resign from his position in the Senate, issue a public apology to everyone affected and go out of the public eye for the rest of his life.

    I consider myself a conservative. I refuse to call myself a Republican especially when there is so much of this sort of thing happening.

    I could go on and on about this. I am disgusted.

    Below is a video from the Rachel Maddow show that talks about this fiasco. I am becoming quite fond of her show. She’s very liberal but she is fair, and humorous.

    Posted on June 22, 2009 to:

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  • Gay Marriage Videos

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    I got a kick out of this one. Its pretty funny.



    This one made me laugh. It is pretty well done.

    Posted on June 14, 2009 to:

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  • A Gay Wedding Album

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    Jon and Jerry, 11.1.08

    I was crusing around Flickr the other day when I came a cross a photo from this slideshow. I started watching the slideshow and thought that it was adorable. I teared up a little bit. The music that goes with it is perfect. I want my wedding to be like this. It looked elegant, romantic, and fun.

    (sigh) Someday.

    Posted on June 13, 2009 to:

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  • Obama’s (short) Record on Gay Rights

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    A week or so ago, I commented on Nathan’s Blog saying that we should give Obama more time to deal with gay rights issues (Don’t Ask Don’t Tell, gay marriage.) I said that Obama was dealing with a collapsing economy, two wars, and the failure of America’s auto industry. After watching this bit from the Racheal Maddow show, I realized that it’s not that Obama has not got around to these gay rights, it’s that he is blatantly ignoring it.

    As the video shows, Obama certainly used the promise to a vicious supporter of gay rights during the campaign and he certainly isn’t living up to his expectations. It is not that Obama doesn’t have the time to address theses issues, it’s that he is choosing not to. The President has not issued a halt to investigating suspected gay people while he works on abolishing Don’t Ask Don’t Tell.

    Not only has the President passively not supported these gay rights, he actually actively has fired people from the military during his administration by proceeding with court cases challenging their dismissal.

    So maybe all of this talk about “hope” and “change” was just a  bunch of crap that got him elected because this clearly isn’t the change that I thought I saw coming. Hopefully, Obama will come around and finally stand by all of those campaign promises.

    Posted on June 10, 2009 to:

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  • A Good Politician? Yes, One Exists

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    john_lynchjpg1Recently John Lynch released this statement.

    “The gay marriage debate in New Hampshire has been filled with passion and emotion on all sides.

    “My personal views on the subject of marriage have been shaped by my own experience, tradition and upbringing. But as Governor of New Hampshire, I recognize that I have a responsibility to consider this issue through a broader lens….

    I have heard, and I understand, the very real feelings of same-sex couples that a separate system is not an equal system. That a civil law that differentiates between their committed relationships and those of heterosexual couples undermines both their dignity and the legitimacy of their families.

    Throughout history, our society’s views of civil rights have constantly evolved and expanded. New Hampshire’s great tradition has always been to come down on the side of individual liberties and protections.

    That is what I believe we must do today.

    We can and must treat both same-sex couples and people of certain religious traditions with respect and dignity.

    I believe this proposed language will accomplish both of these goals and I urge the legislature to pass it.”

    A politician making a decision based on what is best for the constituents rather than his personal beliefs-That’s something that I haven’t seen in a while. I would like to give a big Kudos to Governor Lynch for doing the right thing. You have my respect, sir.

    Posted on May 15, 2009 to:

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  • Gay Men Executed in Iraq

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    I recently read an article that discusses a very serious and growing problem in Iraq. There have been many killings of men simply because they are gay. In an article by The National, an executioner equates his work to a surgeon cutting diseased parts off of a body to save the rest. Part of his job entails executing “men copying the ways of women.” He goes onto say, “We see this [homosexuality] as a serious illness in the community that has been spreading rapidly among the youth after it was brought in from the outside by American soldiers,These are not the habits of Iraq or our community and we must eliminate them.”

    I encourage you all to read the article. It put things into persepctive for me. While gay people are fighting for their right to enter into a maritial contract here in the US, in Iraq gay people are fighting for their life. While I sometimes have to think of what people may think or say to me if they find out that I am gay, men in Iraq worry about living past that.

    While it is certainly important that here in the US gay people have the right to marry, it seems somewhat petty when you examine how bad it could really be. It also makes me proud to be an American and it makes me appreciate my country, culture, and lifestyle that much more.

    Posted on May 4, 2009 to:

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  • Howard Stern on Gay Rights and Gay Marriage

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    I have never really appreciated Howard Stern much. I remember watching his show in high school. I always remember him having these bimbo women on his show and it had very little substance other than talking about her body. In the past couple years, I have began to realize the good that he has done.

    Howard Stern has been a huge First Amendment supporter and advocator. Due to the fact that his show is sometimes pushing the edge in terms of the appropriateness of its content, Stern was forced off of radio and now has a massive following on satellite radio where he now has a massive following.

    Regardless, the points he makes here are some of the same arguments that I have thought about for a long time. Religion should play very little if any role in a sexuality conversation. Being gay is not something that you can change, its something you are born with. Who in their right mind would want to be in that situation? Better yet, who in their right mind would spend their time trying to stop that from happening?

    Growing up, I had always wanted to have a wife and kids and be like all of the other guys but that was never really in the cards for me and I always had that at the back of my mind.

    I now think that I can be just as happy being married to a man and having children. It may be challenging, but it is exciting. I think that within my lifetime or even the next twenty years, we will see gay rights become the next Civil Rights Movement. It is exciting to think that I am going to be part of it.

    Posted on April 30, 2009 to:

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