• Oliver North on Repealing DADT

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    I have read about Oliver North in the past. Part of me liked him because of some of the sneaky things he did. But this completely changed my mind. How someone of his intelligence can really think that allowing gays to openly serve in the military is going to be a “burden to these youngsters” serving in the military? He says that this is like allowing pedophiles into the military? Hmm… I don’t see the connection. I doubt gay people are going to be a burden to people serving because frankly, they already do serve.

    He says it  will affect “readiness routine, and retention.” Does he think that people are not going to sign up for the military if gay people are allowed to serve? What about the 13,000 + men and women that have been dismissed under DADT? I think that’s a retention problem.

    This guy’s an asshole.

    Posted on February 6, 2010 to:

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  • My Awesome Weekend

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    This weekend, my best friend from high school came into the city and I had a blast. It was a much needed break from life and my busy schedule.

    He came in Friday evening. We walked around the city for a while and just hung out and talked. We had a couple of drinks at a bar. It was a good time. He asked me what I found physically attracted about him. That was slightly awkward but I told him and he seems really comfortable around me which is really nice. He knows that I think he is attractive.

    The next evening we went out and he told me that he felt I was holding things back from him and that he knows I trust him and that he was always there to talk. The night went on, we had some more drinks at the place I always go. I am friends with the manager and the staff there so there were lots of drinks all around. I never get drunk. It is not like me at all. But that night I did. On the way back to my place, I just flat out told him about Tony and how I had told him I loved him and how that didn’t go over so well. We made it back to my place and we were both sitting on the couch and I just spilled everything I felt. He kept telling me I was his best friend and everything was going to be okay and other things. He was so sweet. I ended up almost in his arms. He was holding my hand and I just kept going on and tearing up.

    I needed to do that for so long and I need to open up more often. I guess I have a problem being comfortable enough around people to tell them all of this in person rather than online. It was amazing. I feel like a load was taken off of my shoulders.

    He is an amazing guy. I am so lucky to have him as a friend. I am planning something special for him coming up so if all goes well with that I will let you know. Until then, I am going to continue as usual. I feel a lot better and I am planning some things for Spring Break and taking some time off. Right now I feel excited and I feel light and somewhat carefree. I am going to enjoy it while I can.

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  • The Straight Best Friend

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    Lately, I have had a couple of conversations about my best friend and the dynamics of of the gay man/straight man “best friendship.”

    Let me provide you with my story. My best friend was the first person that I came out to. We both went to high school together and had several classes together. He was your typical jock back then. He was on the soccer team and was the star of the track team. He had a very cute girlfriend who he was truly in love with. I was more of the quiet guy who wasn’t really popular and never really spend much time around school after hours.

    I came out to him one day over instant message during our freshman year of college. He was the first person I told and my heart was racing, I was sweating as I typed in that message. After I hit that send button there was nothing that I could but sit in anticipation. This was his message in response:

    “thats perfectly fine with me dude.. to each his own…. there is nothing wrong with that or how you want to live your life.. if anything ur prolly the smart one.. u dont wanna live with a woman trust me haha.. but yeah dude, ur a good guy, and i respect that u were able to tell me that too. its takes a lot of courage… it takes a lot of guts to tell people something like that… some people care about these things and are weirded out by it, but i respect u and i appreciate the friendship that we have… if this is how u feel there is nothing i can do about it.. I accept you for you”

    I don’t think there is anything more that he could have said to put me at ease. I felt so relieved, so grateful.

    Today, we are still great friends. We often talk with each other about life how old we are getting. When we were kids, we always talked about how we were both going to be successful when we got out of our small towns and now we look back at that and laugh because we are part of the few that did get out and are making something of ourselves. He always comes to me seeking relationship advice which I am always happy to give. We have been making more and more of an effort to hang out together when we can. I am planning on having him over for a weekend in a couple weeks. We don’t talk much about my being gay which frankly, is fine by me. Him seeing me as much more than that is just what I wanted. I feel comfortable talking with him though. Recently when I was going through a rough time, he sensed something was wrong and we were able to talk about it. He truly is a great friend and I am honored to have him in my life.

    I know that coming out to a straight friend may not always go as well as it did for me. Do you have a straight best or close friend? How did he react when you told him you were gay? Are you still close? Let me know in the comments.

    Posted on January 19, 2010 to:

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  • It’s the Toys That Made You Gay

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    A friend showed this to me. I couldn’t help but laugh out loud. I thought I would share it with you folks.

    Posted on January 13, 2010 to:

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  • Banning Divorce in California

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    A Twitter buddy posted this this morning and I thought I would share it with all of you. I got a pretty good laugh out of it.

    Go follow him at https://twitter.com/thejjmg

    Posted on January 3, 2010 to:

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  • Gay Rights-Wait it Out or Fight Now

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    Over the past few months or so, discussion over gay rights here in the United States has become more and more of a popular topic for discussion. Some people say that gay people need to be patient and wait for their rights as right now politically isn’t the right time to press the subject. Others demand these rights immediately leaving no room to compromise saying that rights are something that no one should have to wait for.

    On one side, Barrack Obama did say that he will take up the issue of gay rights, he is just asking for a little time to do that. Politically speaking, right now may not be the best time for him to push the envelope on the topic. It is certainly understandable that if the topic is going to be brought up, we should be confident that these rights will be granted in the end. Let’s face it, he’s a busy man. He has two wars, failing auto industry, an economy to rebuild etc. I am sure there is some selfishness sneaking in there as well. Obama wouldn’t want to hurt his chance at winning a second term or to damage the political power of the party.

    For gay rights activists, this is not an acceptable answer. They are demanding these rights immediately and seem to be willing to fight for them (maybe). They claim that no one ever just had rights handed to them and that they must be fought for. They cite the right to vote of women as well as equal rights for black people.

    Both sides certainly have valid points. I am sure it’s clear that I would like equal rights for gay people, but I see both sides of this argument and I am not sure where I stand. I think that the time is coming nearer and nearer towards having these rights but I am also not sold on it being fair that people have to wait to have them.

    What side do you stand on and why? I’m anxious to hear what you have to say. Let me know in the comments.

    Posted on December 29, 2009 to:

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  • Christmas Wrap-up and the Impending New Year

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    This has been a pleasant Christmas week. I have been home since Wednesday. My family celebrates Christmas on Christmas Eve so we went to my uncles annual party and then opened our gifts. My parents were both really happy with the gifts that I got them so that made me happy.

    Tomorrow, I am going to be going on an impromptu overnight trip with my mother to the beach which should be fun, albeit cold. I am really the only one that is close with my mother so I think that I will be good for her to get out a little bit with me. We usually have a pretty good time and have some good stories to tell after our trips.

    New Year’s plans are not set in stone yet but I think I am going to be back in the city and I am going to host my aunt and uncle for the evening. They are a younger couple so it should be pretty fun. I think we are just going to get a couple drinks and walk around the city and see the various displays that are set up for the evening.

    New Years seems to be another reminder to me that I am not with someone. It seems like most holidays do that. It sure would be nice to ring in the new year with someone special. Perhaps that is something that I could work on this year.

    I feel as though I have made some pretty good strides towards ‘being ready’ to be with someone. I am not perfect, and I still have some work to do, but I think that I am certainly closer than I have ever been. Let’s hope things pan out for me in the new year.

    I have made some new contacts through this blog and through twitter. I wanted to welcome them if they have decided to subscribe.

    I am curious to see what everyone’s plans are for New Year’s Eve. Will you being staying in or going out? Are you going to be with someone special? Let me know in the comments.

    Posted on December 27, 2009 to:

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  • Merry Christmas, Happy Holidays

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    Here we are, it’s the end of December. I wanted to take a minute to wish you all the very best holiday and a great new year.

    I have come to this blog for many personal reasons and I want you all to know that I appreciate having an audience to speak to and knowing that I have a place to speak honestly about whatever is on my mind.

    This has been an eventful year for me personally. I have made friends, had a couple great vacations, and learned so much about myself.

    Later today, I am headed home for Christmas. I am looking forward to having a very small Christmas celebration. Last year was absolutely crazy because there was so much going on with my family. Hopefully I will get to spend some time with a good friend of mine as well as my family.

    I sincerely hope that you get to take a break from your ordinary life and get to enjoy the company of your family and friends this week.

    Merry Christmas, and Happy New Year.

    Posted on December 23, 2009 to:

  • Already Plans for Next Year’s Christmas

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    I have decided that next year, I want to skip Christmas and everything associated with it and take a trip somewhere. I am thinking Colorado or Utah. I hear they it is beautiful there. I want to sit in a warm lodge with a huge fireplace and a soft, leather chair with a book overlooking the mountains. It would be great if I had someone special to come with me but it is not a requirement.

    It’s not that I don’t want to be with my family, it is just that I am so tired of the whole commercialization of Christmas. I just want to go and relax. It always sounds so peaceful. Maybe some sightseeing one day, then a dinner back at the lodge and drinks around the fire.

    So who wants to come with me? Any Takers?

    Posted on December 22, 2009 to:

  • I Want it That Way

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    I am sorry I haven’t posted in a while. Here is something to take a ponder at until my next post. I thought this was cute and the acting, although pretty bad at times comes off in a cute way. Yumm.

    (via wickedgayblog.com)

    Posted on December 21, 2009 to: